Down With the Instruction Manual
Thanks for all of the book suggestions on my post yesterday. I have read many of those before and could stand to read them again. I’m hoping to get a copy of Grace Based Parenting because I’ve heard good things about it before, and that title sounds right up my alley. And also, Why Do They Act That Way? A Survival Guide to the Adolescent Brain for You and Your Teen sounds really interesting.
You see, I’m what a good friend likes to call an "info junkie". When I’m making a decision, whether it be parenting or purchasing or otherwise, I like to get all the information I can get my hands on. When my kids were babies, I read everything from Ezzo to Sears. I started out following a "one size fits all" parenting method, but I discovered as my parenting style evolved that I prefer to take more of an "eclectic" approach.
Basically I like to compile all the data, and then I take what I like and ditch the rest. The phrase "whatever works" used to ruffle my feathers, but now I find myself chanting it with the best of them. I’ve learned to rely more on my instincts and less on the "manuals". But I think there IS value to reading the "manuals" as long as you realize that every single one is written by a fallible human being and none of them have YOUR child. We all know that no one parenting book is the end-all be-all.
I love that with over 20 comments on that post, everyone pretty much said the same thing, that there are no formulas, no easy answers, and that we have all that we need in our own God-given maternal instincts and the wisdom of Holy Scripture.
I think my favorite comment was from fancythis.