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Imperfect Christianity

I have read some things recently in the blog world that have disturbed me greatly.  Things about Christians.  It’s nothing new.  I’m aware these thoughts and feelings exist.  We are self-righteous.  We are close-minded.  We are hateful and intolerant.  We are hypocrites.

What upsets me is not that people think these things of us.  What upsets me is that we have given them reason to think these things.

The very most basic, fundamental tenant of Christianity is that we are we are desperately wicked and in need of a Savior.  As Jeremiah 17:9 states, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked.”  (Now, if quoting Scripture makes you twitch — or click away — and you know who you are — please bear with me for a minute.  Cause if you fancy yourself all open-minded and tolerant, then you should at least hear me out.  I’m just sayin’.)

In other words, no one is perfect. Every last one of us is born sinful and without hope unless or until we put our trust in Christ Jesus. Isaiah 53:6 sums it up well, “All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the LORD hath laid on him [Christ] the iniquity [sins] of us all.”

As benefactors of the greatest gift ever bestowed upon mankind, Christians SHOULD be the most gracious, humble, and loving people to walk the earth.  But of course we’re not any more gracious, humble and loving than anyone else because down deep inside, we are no more perfect than anyone else. And yet, there SHOULD be a distinction between believers and unbelievers because we DO have the grace of the Holy Spirit at work in our lives.  But all too often, WE get in the way of our message of hope and salvation when we get caught up in petty disputes and squabbles, or our sinful prejudices surface.

And there is also the misinterpretation of what is gracious, humble, and loving.  None of those words mean that we shouldn’t stand up for what we believe to be true and right.  The gospel will always be offensive to some because while it is a message of love and hope, it is also exclusive.  The most well-known verse in all of Scripture is probably John 3:16, but the verses following flesh it out even more.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because he has not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son.”

So yes, Christianity by nature IS exclusive.  We can’t apologize for that.  HOWEVER.  We should make sure that it is ONLY the gospel and NOT our own sinful prejudices and behaviors that people find offensive.  And that is what I believe we have done to make our message so distasteful.  Because we ARE sinful and imperfect, we often get caught up in silly squabbles.  We get angry.  We say things that are unkind.  We feel envious towards others.  We put more faith in ourselves or our jobs or our kids or our money than we do in God.  We allow secondary issues to divide us when we should be united in Christ.

I am here to tell you that I have done every single one of those things, and it grieves me.  So I repent.  I take my sins of pride and self-reliance to my Lord and lay it at His feet and accept his forgiveness and ask for his grace to do better tomorrow.  And of course I sin again.  It’s a process.  I will never be perfect, although as I grow in grace and knowledge of my Savior I should be growing more like Him.  But as long as I am in my earthly body there will always be sin in my life.  And the same is true for every one of us.

The only difference between a follower of Christ and anyone else is that the Christian lays his or her sin at the feet of Jesus daily and claims His cloak of righteousness as a free gift that was purchased by his death on the cross.  And the invitation to do just that is open to everyone.

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60 thoughts on “Imperfect Christianity

  1. I love this post. I can’t think of any profound thing to add. You said it well, and thanks for doing so.

  2. A friend said it best when her husband complained to her of all the hypocritical Christians, “the church is not full of perfect people, it’s a hospital for all the damaged and hurting ones to go to”.

    Thank you Lord that you help us be transparent to those around us, so you can be seen, not us.

  3. wow really great post. As a Christian blogger how do you separate being ‘all about yourself’ and more to gloify God?

  4. I couldn’t agree anymore. I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. Many times people don’t think we are Christian. So many times people argue those same exact things with us. You couldn’t have put it any better. It is so true we have to constantly repent to try an make ourselves better and try to be more like Christ. Thanks for this post. You have great beliefs.

  5. Thanks for being so frank! I love how your put all of and it is encouragement for all of us believers to be putting our selves out there more!

  6. Hi there – I am going to stick my neck out here and make a comment. I read you all the time, I am just a lurker for 99% of the time. So please forgive me if my words aren’t full of ray and hope — they are just my feelings.

    I come from a strong Christian background. I began in the Roman Catholic Church. Then married a man who was Baptist, born again, and died in the wool church goer. I even gave up my own faith, and embraced his. I figured it didn’t matter the denomination. We believed in the same God, salvation was our common ground, and I could give up communion wine for grape juice and it wouldn’t be a big deal. Church for me was all about loving God, sharing the Word, and fellowship. Or at least that’s how it’s supposed to be.

    What I found was that going to Church and attending services on Sunday (two times), and Wednesday, and attending a women’s bible study on Thursday’s, with choir practice in Friday’s didn’t take the sting out of the back stabbing, pretentiousness, or the judgmental attitude I encountered all in the name of Christ. I thought perhaps it was the denomination, so I did something really scary I left my husband’s (I am no longer married to this man) church and found another church that was supposed to be “On fire” for Christ, because the bottom line it’s all about being born again, and laying our sins at the feet of Christ, as we are all sinners.

    I attended that church for an entire year, was well liked, was involved, was an active member. What I found in this church again was more of the same, and the sad part was these same people who were judging those around them were the same people each Sunday proclaiming the word of God.

    It disgusted me. So I took my concern to the Pastor, who was very open minded and incredibly smart. He was the first person that got what I meant, and he actually took action and spoke about this very issue one Sunday morning. Half the congregation was insulted that someone would challenge them on their behavior.

    So fast forward almost twenty years, and I am in a very different place in all ways of my life. I have returned to my roots, still have a personal relationship with God and love Him very much. But I stopped worrying about others who proclaim His name out of one side of their mouth and then so blatantly judge others and spread hate and discontent only to lay their icky behaviors down at the end of the day at the feet of Christ.

    I realize God’s not stupid, he knows who the real deal is — you know what I mean? He knows who’s giving lip service, and he knows who means what they say. And really I can totally understand why he flooded the earth so many thousands of years ago.

    So with all that being said — it is what it is. You shouldn’t have to apologize for your fellow Christian, you are a beautiful individual who is full of love, compassion, and acceptance.

    That’s all.

    1. THANK YOU! VERY well put. My own daughter will not openly acknowledge that she is a Christian because of the negative connotations that “label” has… For the same reason, I will not be the advisor for the “Christian CLub” at the school where I teach — because when one says s/he is a Christian, others automatically assume that one is intolerant, hateful, bigoted and close-minded. I am much more effective as a Christian “witness” when my kids know where I stand — WITHOUT the “label.” It’s sad, but true. I even had one of the “Christian” kids say I was compromising my faith by NOT being their advisor… interesting, huh? What good “Christian” home did that come from? It’s just so sad. I believe the statement that someone made — Christians shoot their own wounded…. as well as the strong! 🙁

  7. What a great post. And so needed during Holy Week. Thanks for reminding me what it really means to call myself a Christian. Have a blessed Easter!

  8. It’s hard. It really is. Aren’t we blessed to have such a gracious, forgiving savior? Beautifully written.

  9. iidly – I hear what you are saying. I look around at my fellow “Christians” and I cringe to be lumped in with most of them. But then I laugh at my pride and self-righteousness because I know I am no better. And I realize I am being just as judgmental as I condemn them to be.

    I have been hurt MANY TIMES by other Christians, some who I consider friends, and it’s hard not to become jaded sometimes.

    But that is why we put our hope in a perfect God and his perfect Son. People and churches will always fail us because ultimately they are imperfect. And yet, I believe the church was given to us because we need one another, so I haven’t given up on it yet.

  10. Great post. I love the fact that you point out that there is more to that scripture. I feel like a lot of the message get watered down in the spirit of being politically correct and I just don’t see how that helps anyone that is lost in the long run.

    Very good points. Thanks for posting.

  11. Thanks so much Jo-Lynne. Realness is why I read this blog. The only thing we can change is ourselves and hopefully that impacts the people around us.

  12. Jo-Lynne what a great post. You are so right we are all humans..and as much as it pains me to make a mistake or hurt another Christian we cannot be perfect.. the hard part is trying not to let that be the excuse for making the mistake.. and that is something that we can rely on God to give us the strength to strive for perfection and let him pick up off of our faces when we fall short.

    I did not become a Christian until later in my life and I had a hard time with people that said they were Christians because all I was doing was looking for faults in them. It wasn’t until I looked at my life did I realize that I was so much worse that I realized how much they were trying.

    Not sure if that made a whole lot of sense.. but any just wanted to say nice post 🙂

  13. Thanks, Jo-Lynne. This is an area I struggle with. I hate seeing believers destroy each other and damage the cause of Christ. And I hate when bad attitudes bubble up inside me. All I can do is give it back to the Lord, and seek to humbly serve Him. When I’m tempted to say something nasty, I’m working on biting my tongue and confessing my pride. I want to be known as a Christian who puts into action what I believe–a Christ-follower in practice, not just in word.

  14. I have no idea what specific incidents you are referring to, so I can’t really speak to them. One thing that does bother me, though, is when people label Christians as hypocrites, when really they just mean SINNERS.

    Christianity is for sinners and is therefore FULL of them. There are going to be problems; it’s why we need a Savior!

    Hypocrisy is claiming righteousness… and there are lots of Christians who do not claim to be righteous; they are keenly, painfully aware of their sin.

  15. Thanks and Happy Easter!!!
    “It is finished”, all done, nothing more to add AND the power that allowed Jesus to defeat death can give all Christians the ability to live beyond the sin that so easily entangles us…if we ask for help.

  16. A few comments up, someone shared her personal experiance and I totally agree and admire her for putting it out there. It is that we feel we have to apologize for other Christians (and ourselves at times), but God is gracious to overlook my sin and contempt and love me anyway.
    This was a great post. THANK YOU.

  17. Jenny, you said so much in that comment that I agree with. There are like 5 posts’ worth of topics in that comment. 🙂 This, in particular — We CANNOT put Christian expectations on a non-Christian world — another topic entirely, but so true.

  18. OKay, this was an excellent post. I think sometimes bloggers get on here and start getting all high and mighty and DO forget that we are all sinners. I once had someone comment me, quite lenghty, about an Ellen Degeneres video I placed on my blog! She went on and on…”How could you?” Anyway, let’s all take a little breath and remember the world is watching and reading and for some we may be the only “Christ” they ever see. LOVE YOUR POST!!!

  19. I agree with how iidly summed it up at the end of her comment.
    We aren’t responsible for the actions of others but we are responsible for our actions and our reactions.God knows the heart and that includes everyone’s heart. Sometimes we forget where our focus should be and we forget about God’s grace and mercy that we should be sharing with others.

  20. YES! The Lord is teaching me this as well lately. I have often had to repent for feeling so angry towards fellow Christians. We CANNOT put Christian expectations on a non-Christian world. The nation is becoming “UnChristian” because the nation of believers have failed. I have failed, but am working on making it right. Where are we lately? Christians are hiding in their homes homeschooling, we are only meeting with our Christian friends, etc. We are not to be fearful of the world. We are supposed to go and make disciples; too bad we are too afraid to get “dirty” and too bad we do not have enough faith in our Savior. I have been at the bottom, He saved me, and I will never forget that. We are just a step away from where non-Christians are. We cannot take our mercy for granted.

  21. Dear dcrmom,

    I cannot begin to tell you how much knowing you has opened my eyes. I am not what you’d call a Christian, I do not belong to a church. When we first met through blogging a few years ago, and I saw you were a Christian blogger, I figured, well, we’ll be friends till she figures out I’m a heathen.

    For most of my life I thought of myself as an open-minded liberal person, but I had this knee-jerk reaction to the word “Christian.” I shut right down, assuming we’d never see eye to eye. And it was entirely my fault! It was MY closed-mindedness!

    In the two years I have known you, I have come to see there is such beauty in being a Christian, and I have envied what you have.

    So, if the goal is to lead by example, you are doing so splendidly.

  22. Great post, Jo-Lyn. I appreciate hearing that–especially this week when, of all weeks, we should be examining our hearts.

    I resonate with so much of what Jenny wrote. And yet, I find I do my fair share of judging other Christians–especially those who don’t make the same choices I do in terms of education. What is that?! Yes, I hold very strong opinions, but I shouldn’t worry about the choices others make if I’m confident in the choice I’ve made. In other words, I need to stop judging too.

    But, I completely agree with Jenny in that we cannot be afraid of the world. We just can’t hold it to the same standards. Maybe we expect too much of the world and too little of Christians. Hmmm.

  23. Hi Shelly,
    Yes, I know that I can be judgmental of Christians, and I find myself in need of repentance on occasion,because of the whole speck and plank thing!However, we have to be sure to speak the truth in love to Christians and to non-Christians. Not in judgment, where so many of us find ourselves,(I will be the first one to admit my own shortcoming there), but we need to speak truth in each others lives through action and love. When it comes to education, I really am ok with homeschooling, as long as your choice does not come out of fear. I am adament in my belief that we need Christians in schools. There are too many precious children who need His love shown to them.

  24. I posted a big long thing and really, I just need to say “I agree with you” instead of getting into it all.

    So…I agree with you.

  25. 1) I have a dear friend who, when her young son complains about another kid, will say “You! You put up with him! Know why? Because everyone puts up with you!” HA! But so true! I try to remember that for myself, when I start growling about someone else.

    and

    2) For every hypocritical, shameless and obnoxious Christian out there: consider how they might be had they NOT become a Christian!

  26. I am sure our dear proprietor was not meaning to turn this into homeschool debate, so I promise I am done! Great post!!!

  27. I completely just stumbled across your blog, through Bye Bye Pie’s archives (she mentions you so much that I finally had to read your blog, and wow) and this just happened to be on your front page, today of all days, when I needed to hear it the most. Thank you.

  28. I had an interesting conversation with a neighbor. They felt that most religions had the same God. I disagreed with them, but I said that I don’t really worry about it because it’s not like I get to judge who goes to heaven and who doesn’t anyhow.

  29. I think a similar thing happens to every group of people from teenagers, to cops, to Christians and everything in between. The entire group is judged by the worst of the lot. There are plenty of people of every religion that do their best to live true to their faith. And then there are those that use their religion as an excuse to pass judgment on others, act superior to them, and (in the extreme) murder people who don’t share their faith. Unfortunately, the loud, obnoxious, dangerous people are the ones who often bring the most attention to the faith, painting all followers with the same brush.

  30. All I can say is, Well Said Jo Lynne. 🙂

    And I relate with what Moriah said. There are some of us who are keenly aware of our sin and try to do our best to overcome it, yet still face judgment all the same.

    If only we knew how to be perfect..

  31. Excellent post, Jo-Lynne. The difference between the saved and unsaved is that the saved are forgiven, reconciled to God, and have the power of the Holy Spirit to change sinful thoughts and behavior. The sin nature is still there, but we are now overcomers because of Christ. It’s a shame if Christians do not live there, thus bringing shame to the name of Christ.

  32. I remember early on in my Christian walk being upset that a handful of ladies at our church did 99% of the work. God spoke to me in that still small voice (one of the few times I have been quiet long enough to hear him) and I felt His spirit telling me that the only woman in the church I needed to concern myself with was me. From that moment, I have tried to focus my attitude and behavior only on MYSELF. Sometimes I think we get caught up in DOING for Christ instead of BEING for Christ. We are Human Beings after all, not Human Doers.

    This post was so eloquently written. It really touched me.

  33. Beautifully done, Jo-Lynne.

    And I personally needed to hear some preaching in the middle of my week, so I appreciate your message. I’ve been really discouraged over a family member getting upset over this very issue, and your clear response is what my heart knows…but my mouth just couldn’t say. Thank you!

  34. Great post, my friend. Great post. If the shoe fits…and it does…we should wear it. Truly, the church is more like a prison than a hospital. We’re not merely wounded people, we are guilty people.

    However, I would also submit that there are some things worth fighting for. As a regular reader of Christian blogs I can make an educated guess as to the issue you’re addressing. It falls squarely into the “worth fighting for” category.

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