Six weeks ago, I opened the Notes app on my phone and wrote down a list of goals.
If you know me, you know that’s not something I normally do. I’m not much of a goal-setter or someone who maps out five-year plans. But after listening to a few podcasts one weekend, something clicked.
Why I Needed a Change
I was at a breaking point. The scale had hit an all-time high, my waistline had disappeared, and I hardly recognized my own body anymore. I was tired of feeling like a victim of menopause.
Getting dressed, something that’s always been fun for me and also essential to my work, had become frustrating and downright demoralizing. Clothes no longer fit me well, and I was feeling incredibly limited in what styles I could wear.
As someone who tries on clothes for a living, that was a hard place to be. But I don’t think you have to work in fashion to understand that feeling.
When you don’t feel comfortable in your own body, it affects so much more than your wardrobe. It affects your confidence, your energy, and sometimes even your willingness to put yourself out there.
I found myself avoiding getting on camera and putting off trying on the clothes that arrive regularly on my doorstep. When I finally worked up the gumption to tackle a batch of try-ons, I was completely worn out before I got through it.
Looking back, I realize my energy and stamina were slipping away, as well. I assumed that was just what post-menopause felt like.
But it wasn’t just that. Over the past year or so, I had gained 10 pounds, and it was still creeping up. I had already moved up a size in all of my clothes and I was on the brink of needing to do it again.
To be clear, the numbers themselves weren’t really the point. They simply reflected what I was seeing and feeling in my body.
I remember walking by the mirror in our room the first day we were in St. Lucia, catching a glimpse of myself in a swimsuit. I did a double-take and took a good hard look. I barely recognized the woman looking back at me.
Then I immediately started talking myself through it.
“You’re in one of the most beautiful places in the world with a husband who loves you. You’re strong and healthy. Be grateful.”
And I was grateful. Truly. I told myself that menopause had happened, my body had changed, and this was simply my new normal. I just had to be content with it. I went on with my vacation and enjoyed it, but that’s when I realized how much things had changed and how noticeable it was.
Once I was back home and back into everyday life, I tried to get things back under control the way I always had before. I’d try to walk more and clean up my eating for a few days, and I’d lose a couple of pounds and start to feel hopeful. Then life would get busy, old habits would creep back in, and before long I was right back where I’d started.
The weight kept creeping up. Shopping wasn’t fun anymore. Try-ons were still exhausting. I figured this was just the way things were going to be.
Fast forward a couple of months, and I happened to listen to a few podcasts that started to get my wheels turning… They didn’t necessarily tell me anything I didn’t already know, or reveal some secret to losing weight after 50.
What they did do was push me to stop waiting for motivation and finally commit to making some changes.
I still wasn’t sure it was even possible to make meaningful progress after menopause without medical intervention, but I decided to give it one last ditch effort before exploring other options.
The First Thing I Did
One of the podcasts challenged listeners to write down a few specific goals. At first, I dismissed the idea, but they insisted it was a crucial step for success. I happened to be out on a walk, so I opened the Notes app on my phone and started making a list.
I even put it into ChatGPT and they created this cute graphic for me!
You may notice that the first goal I typed in had nothing to do with weight loss or healthy eating. It was simply to make my bed every day.
That probably sounds completely unrelated, but it became a small daily win that set the tone for everything else. Starting the morning by following through on one simple promise to myself made it easier to follow through on the harder ones too.
Plus, every time I walked into my bedroom, I was greeted by a space that felt calm and orderly instead of one more reminder of things left undone. It made me feel disciplined and more in control, even when the rest of my goals still felt a long way off.
It also taught me something important: our lives are shaped by hundreds of small decisions we make every day. Making my bed. Going for a walk. Choosing a Spindrift instead of a glass of wine. Skipping the bowl of potato chips while I made dinner.
None of those decisions felt life-changing on their own. But repeated day after day, they gradually became habits.
Another takeaway from one of the podcasts was to stop thinking about what I wanted to do and start thinking about the kind of person I wanted to be.
Instead of saying, “I really should go for a walk,” I started saying:
I’m the kind of person who walks every day.
I’m the kind of person who starts the day in prayer.
I’m the kind of person who makes my bed every day.
I’m the kind of person who prioritizes my health.
Looking back, I think those little mindset shifts mattered just as much as the changes I made in the kitchen.
Consistency Before Intensity
Walking every day was the next habit I wanted to establish. It’s been my goal for a long time, but it’s all too easy to get caught up in computer work. Before I know it, the day has gotten away from me and it’s too late.
So I set a recurring alarm on my phone every morning to remind me to step away from the computer, which usually keeps me glued to the couch, and get outside. If it’s raining, I head to the treadmill in the basement.
At first, I wasn’t worried about pace, distance, or step count. My only goal was consistency.
If I only had 10 or 15 minutes, I walked for 10 or 15 minutes. If I had 45, even better. The important thing was that I walked.
Now, six weeks later, it doesn’t feel like something I have to talk myself into anymore. It’s just what I do. And now that the habit is established, I’m starting to add a few distance goals.
I also committed to strength training at least twice a week. That’s always been my goal while working with my trainer over the past 10 years, but life gets busy, our schedules don’t always line up, and I haven’t always been as consistent as I need to be to see the results I want.
Fortunately, my Pilates studio also offers group strength training classes, so I’ve started signing up for those whenever I can’t meet with my trainer.
That has really helped me stay consistent, and I actually enjoy the different style of workout. There’s also something encouraging about being surrounded by other women who are prioritizing their strength and health.
But I also knew I couldn’t out-walk a bad diet.
The Biggest Changes Happened in the Kitchen
In addition to being more consistent with walking and strength training, I also started working with a nutritionist.
I’ll admit, I went back and forth about whether to even tell you that because it feels a little ridiculous. I know what healthy food is. I know protein is important. I know vegetables are good for me. I know potato chips and Prosecco aren’t.
Information wasn’t my problem. Consistency was.
I could eat well for a few days, but I’d slowly slide back into old habits. Or I’d do well all day and then undo it with mindless snacking while making dinner. I was tired of negotiating with myself all day long.
What I needed wasn’t another meal plan.
I needed accountability.
Looking back, hiring a nutritionist was probably the single best decision I made, and the one that really moved the needle. Not because she taught me what healthy food is, but because she helped me consistently do the things I already knew I should be doing.
She suggested simple swaps for some of my favorite foods, helped me build meals around protein and fiber, and gently pointed out the habits that were tripping me up.
That accountability has made all the difference.
The Plan
I’m sure you’ll want to know more about what I’ve been doing, so here’s the short version.
I don’t count calories or track macros (thank goodness, because my brain just isn’t wired that way), and there are no supplements, shakes, or anything other than real food.
I prioritize protein, especially at breakfast, because the research on protein intake during menopause is pretty compelling. I’ve also eliminated almost all snacking, along with the little bites and tastes throughout the day. If I have a snack now, it’s because I’m actually hungry, not just because the food is there. I also make sure to keep a few approved options on hand so making the better choice is easy.
But more than anything, it’s been about making lots of small changes and simple swaps that gradually became new habits.
One of the biggest eye-openers was writing down everything I ate.
Everything.
Not just meals.
The handful of crackers while making dinner.
The couple of chocolate mints after lunch.
The bite of this.
The taste of that.
I didn’t realize how much those little bites were adding up until I had to account for every single one.
Some of the changes were surprisingly simple.
My favorite Luna Bars became IQBARs.
A bowl of potato chips and a glass of wine before dinner became GG crackers and a Spindrift.
When I want something sweet, I reach for fresh berries instead of my usual chocolate peppermints.
None of those swaps felt particularly significant on their own.
But just like making my bed or going for a walk, those small decisions added up over time.
I did have to let go of a few things, too. At first, I tried to hold onto as many of my old favorites as I could. But I wasn’t seeing the progress I’d hoped for, so one by one, I started eliminating the biggest offenders.
The cheese cubes I’d grab throughout the day, the piece of toast with my eggs every morning, and the dark chocolate peppermint cremes after each meal were some of the first to go. I simply stopped buying them, so they weren’t there to tempt me. After a while, I stopped missing them.
One of the biggest eye-openers was realizing how often I was eating without really thinking about it. Writing down everything I ate made me realize how many little bites, tastes, and snacks were adding up throughout the day.
Beyond that, the changes were pretty simple. I started prioritizing protein and fiber when eating at home, and I became much more intentional about what I ordered when dining out. I try not to overthink it. I simply choose the healthiest or lightest option that appeals to me, close the menu, and focus on enjoying the people I’m with.
Nothing is completely off limits, but I don’t keep certain foods in the house because making the better choice is so much easier when they aren’t there. If it’s not in the pantry, I can’t mindlessly eat it.
The goal isn’t perfection. It’s making small decisions that support my goals until they gradually become habits.
I don’t expect to be this strict forever, but right now, this is what I need to do.
Where I Am Now
As I’m writing this, I’m down almost 10 pounds, and I’m starting to wear my old sizes again.
But honestly, the numbers on the scale and on my clothing aren’t the important part. They only mattered because they reflected the changes I was seeing in my body.
What makes it all worth it is that I recognize myself in the mirror again.
I have more energy, too. I’m not worn out after a try-on session or a photo shoot, and getting dressed and trying new outfits and silhouettes is fun again.
When I opened the Notes app on my phone and wrote down those goals six weeks ago, I honestly wasn’t sure it was possible to make meaningful progress after menopause without medical intervention. I’m incredibly grateful that changing my habits has been enough to get me moving in the right direction.
I realize my experience won’t be everyone’s experience, but I hope it encourages someone who’s feeling as discouraged as I was.
What I know now is that I didn’t need more information. I needed accountability and encouragement to consistently do the things I already knew I should be doing.
I share all of this because I know so many of us are in the same boat. If you’re feeling frustrated by the changes menopause has brought to your body, I hope it’s encouraging to hear that meaningful progress is still possible.
It may not happen overnight, and it may not look the same for everyone. We all have different priorities, different bodies, and different goals. This is simply what’s been working for me, and I hope it encourages you if you’ve been wondering whether change is still possible.
As always, I’m happy to answer questions and share more specifics with anyone who’s interested.
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135 Responses
Happy birthday 🎉 thank you for sharing your journey. It’s so personal and different for everyone. I struggled for years (yes-years) doing the right things. Once I found hormones everything changed. Thanks for putting into words what we all feel ❤️
Yes, HRT has definitely helped me feel better, but it didn’t really help with my weight gain although I had one doctor tell me that it would’ve gotten worse without it so… I would say that’s part of the puzzle too.
Thank you for being motivation I need! My eating is what I need to fix. I know what to do! I lift heavy weights 2 to 3 times a week, add in Pilates and a glutes/abs class weekly. I walk as a habit as well. Started pickle ball as well. Movement is not my problem it’s the food.
I also already make my bed everyday. It’s the small good habits that eat up my day.
Thanks for the motivation!
Happy Birthday
Jennifer
This is what I need to hear. I’m always thinking I’ll start making changes when/after ________. With that mindset I will never get motivated. So, thank you for helping me own up to that. I injured my leg almost two months ago and still on PT. I so badly want to be stronger to avoid more injuries and want to keep up with exercise. I’m starting go for walks again and want that to be a daily habit. Anyway, it’s good to hear that we’re not alone in our struggles. And I agree accountability is huge. Changing the wording to “I am a person who walks, etc” I think that will be a game changer for me.
I would love to hear more about your prayer goal and drawing closer to God.
I have been meaning to write and tell you how much you have changed my life. I’ve never been good at dressing myself and it impacted my self esteem. I did not enjoy traveling, parties or going out with friends because I never knew what to wear and felt like a fashion impaired slob. Since following you for the last eight years or so ( I found you with a google search on what shoes to wear with boot cut jeans) things have changed dramatically. I no longer decline invitations because I don’t know what to wear. I’ve learned more about what works for my body and what doesn’t (still have some to learn). We went to Costa Rica two weeks ago on a work trip and I had dresses for every evening and cute clothes for the daytime. You have truly changed my life–my friendships (because I’m willing to go out and do things), my marriage (my husband is an extrovert and loves to socialize) and my self esteem. Have been struggling with weight gain from menopause myself and plan to fully digest your thoughtful post today. Even though I don’t love my weight, I feel so much better about myself having cute clothes to wear! Thank you SO much from the bottom of my heart for all you do.
This comment means more to me than you’ll ever know. I always struggle with feeling like what I do is such a frivolous thing and there are many more important things I could focus my work around than what to wear. Thank you so much for reminding me that it is so much more than that.
Jo-Lynne I can say ditto to everything Diane has said. I spent decades not participating in events, or if I did, not wanting to look at the pictures that documented my utter inability to dress myself. Since finding your blog in 2015 (I googled mary-jane tennis shoes and your post came up), my life has opened up in ways I never thought possible. I can do things like throw grad parties for my kids because yes, I do have an outfit to wear for that. Or just go to dinner with friends and not feel so ridiculous in what I’m wearing. I think the one thing that really opened it up for me was you emphasis on denim. I had this ah-ha moment when I realized I could still be comfortable and feel like myself, yet also look “put together” as you like to say. You have used the words modern, polished, and understated to describe your fashion style. For me, those are more like my fashion goals — it’s what I would like to move towards, even though I’m not all the way there yet. And you have helped me so greatly in moving across the spectrum from fashion wilderness to fashion informed. Thank you. Please keep doing everything you do.
That is so nice to hear, thank you!
I say ditto to Diane’s comment. I’ve been hanging out here for many years. You’re the friend that I don’t have. I turn 50 this summer, and I really needed this encouraging post today for current struggles. Thank you!
As someone who is also going through menopause and has always worked out regularly and eaten healthy, I feel every bit of this post. I had gained the extra 10lbs and felt miserable. I will also add I started with a functional medicine doctor who put me on HRT and Testosterone (YES! Women need it too!) and it has helped me get my life back. No more brain fog, no more sleepless nights, no more joint pain, no more irritability and the testosterone has helped reduce my body fat. Down 15lbs.
I’m on those as well, but I don’t know that we have my levels optimized. The hot flashes stopped, but I didn’t feel that it helped much with weight gain. I was thinking of getting a 2nd opinion.
Great choices, Jo-Lynne! So happy for your health, and you are looking great! Thanks for sharing details of your journey thus far. I’m sure it will be a huge help to many readers!
❤️Jean
Thank you for being so honest and sharing such personal details about yourself. I’m so encouraged for you and the joy it’s brought back to your life. Onward!
Thank you for sharing your journey. I’m also going through this and find it so helpful that you shared this. Congratulations on your progress!
Jo-Lynne, thank you so much for sharing this. As so many of us know, the struggle is real. I wish you much luck in this journey.
This is helpful information. Thank you for sharing. FYI If you have a Trader Joe’s near you they have a Norwegian Crispbread that is lower carb, higher fiber and gluten free that seems similar to the one you linked on Amazon. I lost weight and kept it off for over a year but lately I have been snacking too much without thinking whether I am hungry. Question: what did you use to track your food? I want to do that to hold myself accountable.
I rarely get to TJ but I will try to look for it when I go. I was using Dining Note, but it got glitchy, so now I just use the Notes app.
You look great! Thank you for posting this! I’m in the same rut.
Thank you for this Jo-Lynne. I have gotten to the point where I am disgusted seeing myself in a swimsuit. Some things you can hide with clothing but at this time of year my lack of discipline is so revealing. I feel like I have some of it down. I regularly (6-7 days a week) walk at least 3.5 miles a day at a good pace. I need to schedule strength training or the day slips by and I don’t get to it. My biggest problem area is food. I am a snacker and I crave sweet (and then salty and then sweet). I need to cut sweets out of my diet and focus on getting more protein in my diet. What are you eating to get 30 grams of protein? I am a vegetarian but I do eat eggs and dairy. The struggle is real but you have inspired me this morning to try to make some changes to feel better about myself. I am so glad to see that you didn’t resort to GLP-1.
I eat 2-3 eggs with cottage cheese almost every day. That will do it. Also egg yolks are very nutritious. 💪🏻
Thank you. And Happy Birthday!
Thank you!
As a fellow vegetarian, I have started eating tempeh in addition to tofu (baked), Greek yogurt, cottage cheese, and eggs. I like the tempeh texture and recommend.
Thanks you for sharing this. I can relate to all of it.
This is very encouraging! Thanks for posting.
Thank you for this post. I just turned 60 & everything you have said is exactly what I’m feeling. This is very encouraging! Thank you for putting yourself out there. ❤️🙏🏻
Great post and I know it’s hard to put this out there but this will really hit with this audience so thank you for that. The line that resonated with me is “Information isn’t the problem. Consistency is.” Recognizing that and then implementing steps to make a change takes real work. Congrats on that!
Over the years, I had struggled with maintaining my weight and a few year ago I signed up for a new app at the time called MacroFactor where I log all my food and weight. I’ve kept my weight at my target goal for 1213 days now. I no longer need to track diligently daily and I no longer weigh myself every morning. I spent time building habits and staying consistent and it works for me. I’m not in menopause yet and absolutely know that once I am, I may need to adjust things. I may need to get more diligent in tracking/weighing and that’s ok. I spend more time celebrating what my body can do for me these days. I love lifting and I’m strong and it shows. I love dancing and I lead an hour class going full out and manage to keep talking most of the time through it. I nourish this body to be able to do those things and I also rest like it’s a job. I tell people I have 4 jobs, Project Manager (that is what pays the bills), Fitness Instructor, Food Eater and Sleeper. In order to do the first 2 I have to be great at the second 2.
I do not have the “styling gene” haha! My mom had it, and my daughter has it. Skipped me. But since I have started following you (and a few other bloggers), I feel better about dressing. I still feel self-conscious (low self esteem), but I am trying t accept me for me. Some days my husband says, you are channeling Jo-Lynne today!
I started doing IF over 6 years ago, and I never stopped, every day. I feel better about my eating as food no longer controls me. I didn’t have much to lose, but I lost that quickly, and last year I lost a bit more. We try to eat healthy, not processed foods, but I don’t want to deny myself everything. I just have to be intentional about what I choose. I am always working on adding more protein to my diet, and if I feel like I am falling short, I use myfitness pal and list everything I eat for a few days to see if I am getting enough protein.
I also started Yoga with Adriene 6 years ago, and I do that 7 days a week, I walk daily, and I use weights for upperbody/arms 3 times a week. (I am not a gym person so I workout at home.) I have started using bands for upperbody/arms a few weeks ago, and I can certainly feel my muscles. I need to keep pushing myself which is hard as I have problems with my hip and am trying to put off a replacement as long as I can.
At 72 I want to be stronger, more flexible, and have better balance. I need to keep up with our 3 young grandchildren. Taking care of myself is a priority (easier to do in retirement.)
Thank you for all your posts. You give me ideas and direction with what I wear, which makes me feel better about myself.
Hi Arna, I can relate! I am also 72 and started IF right after adding the COVID 10!! That habit has kept my weight in check and I no longer crave snacks after our early dinner, and I rarely eat breakfast before 9AM. My grands are funny, always teasing me that I “can’t” eat after 5:30 and that I always share an entree with my husband at restaurants!! I was just eating too much food. Currently I walk daily but need to work more on flexibility and balance. Good luck on your journey!
I’m so happy for you Jo-Lynne. Menopause affected me the same way, and the slow weigh gain, lost of focus, and change in how I saw myself in the mirror (and in society) took a seriously negative toll on me that I didn’t realize or understand at the time. I’m so grateful that you were able to get the help you need for yourself, but also for sharing this information so openly with your readers. Your influence goes far beyond fashion and I’m sure this will help so many other women.
I’m 18 years post menopause and finally lost 35 pounds this year. Yay! I did it with the help of GLP-1 medication, along with some of the things that are working for you: increased protein, scheduled workouts, and consistently writing down what I put into my mouth. I feel happier at 70 than I have in years.
Journaling is HUGE! I recommend it to every woman I know. It has amazing benefits that have helped me in every aspect of my life.
I’m curious about Journaling. How did you start? What do you journal? Whenever I’ve tried I’ve just felt like I’m randomly writing nonsense. And most importantly, how has it helped you? Thanks!
Hi Nancy,
I’m happy to share my thoughts about journaling. I started during covid, but only once a week on Sunday, to just capture the things that had happened that week and feelings about my life. This timing also coincided with the isolation that occurred with move back to where I was raised, and the realization that my husband was in the early stages of Alzheimers. I use a Google Document to write because it is faster to type and it is secure.
The journalling became really important when my husband was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma in 2022, and eventually died in March 2023. I used the journal daily — first thing in the morning while drinking coffee and sometimes later in the day if I needed to process something that that happened. It helped to sort out all the challenges and decisions that I had to deal with every day. I could honestly express my deepest fears, moments of anger and eventually grief on “paper” and then let it go, and move on to the next day. It is the main thing that kept me sane during that period, even with support of my friends and family.
Another huge benefit for me is that I can go back in the journal to read what I had been thinking about 6 months or 3 years ago. I can see my growth through difficult circumstances, how my happiness returned after my husband’s death, and the things that add the most joy to me. It’s amazing how being truly honest with yourself can lead to growth in all areas of your life — fashion, health, things that annoy you, things you want for yourself, etc.
I write as if I were talking to myself, or discussing something with a friend or therapist, but over time I’ve found some prompts that help focus and condense my thoughts. Prompts for morning: What am I grateful for today? What am I excited about today? What virtue do I want to exhibit today? What am I avoiding today? What am I looking forward to doing today? Prompts for evening: Biggest win of the day? Did I have any major realizations? What’s on the agenda for tomorrow? Maybe start with these?
This is incredibly helpful, thank you for sharing. I’m not much of a journal or so I’ve been thankful that I have this blog as a record of so many of my experiences and memories over the years.
So happy for you, Mary!
Thank you for being so open and vulnerable with us! It’s a daily struggle for most of us and I love hearing your solutions. 17 months ago I started a program called The Wellness Experiment by Dr. Jen Ashton and it has changed my life! I encourage any peri/post menopausal women to check it out. Also, I love your use of ChatGPT to create your cute daily list! It’s also great at putting together meals that are high in protein and fiber. I just tell it what I have in my fridge or pantry and it will come up with a healthy meal for you! You look wonderful!! Keep up the good work and thank you for inspiring all of us!
That’s a great idea for using ChatGPT for using up what’s in your fridge. I hate it, but we waste so much.
What a great post! Thanks for your honesty. You are not alone.
I estimate that I gained about 50 pounds on the leadup to our move to France, as well as the months after we arrived. The year before we moved, I had just reached my goal weight after doing a program that was pretty intense, but we were so stressed out by the move that I just gave up and ate whatever I wanted. Plus, French pâtisseries. We also stayed in a series of guest houses after our arrival, and none of them had a mirror – or a scale (I’d given mine away). The first time that I saw myself in a mirror, I just about passed out. I have a small frame, and 50 pounds was…a lot. I’ve made a lot of the same changes that you have, and I’m walking about an hour and a half to two hours a day (I’m retired, I have the time). The weight is slowly (so slowly) coming off.
I used to be a Realtor, and our brokerage was big into self-help books. I absolutely loathe self-help books, but I read them anyway because they were suggested, and free. The only one that I liked was Atomic Habits by James Clear. It sounds like you are doing what he suggests – small habits that you can keep up easily. So much better than making huge life changes that are difficult to sustain. So, well done you! Thanks again for the post.
Jolynne, first of all, Happy Birthday! Thank you for sharing your journey these past months. As a woman in the late stages of perimenopause I can relate. I had estrogen fed breast cancer seven years ago and I can’t take HRT, so I’m looking for other healthy ways to deal with these changes in my body. You have encouraged me to start walking more and prioritize the small decisions I can do everyday that make a difference. It really helps to know we’re not alone in it. Thank you and I appreciate you!
Way to go! Keep up the good work. My biggest problem is my love for chocolate. Ugh. If I could just let that go, I would be in much shape (so to speak). Your goals and your progress are inspiring and timely for me. Thank you for sharing!
Stop buying it. 😉 I loved those chocolate covered peppermints soooo much, but I couldn’t leave them alone, so we stopped buying them.
😂 I also have a love of chocolate . Did you know that craving chocolate can be a hint that our magnesium levels are low.. I’ve been taking liquid magnesium at bedtime and while I still like my chocolate it isn’t as bad or noticeable and if I skip too many nights I feel the cravings coming back
I’ve read pilates does little for bone density or gaining muscle. You’d be far better off to take that away and add free weight lifting on the pilates day.
I don’t do Pilates for bone density or muscle. It has done wonders for my core strength and stability, and it’s a great complement to my weight training. That said, I could probably add a 3rd weight training day each week, maybe 2 with my trainer and 1 at the Pilates studio.
Ooh, this is a very interesting topic! I have experienced perimenopause since last fall and was not having a good time. I feel like my lower pooch just got so much bigger, and it wasn’t great to begin with but that’s what happens when you have two large babies. I also had a host of symptoms that were very discouraging like hot flashes, brain fog, joint pain and thirst (and more)! I finally got HRT patches a week ago but haven’t noticed much relief just yet. I have gained about 5-7 pounds and I’m working all the time to ensure it doesn’t increase. To maintain/lose (hopefully) I have been lifting weights, ideally 3 times a week. I don’t go to the gym or have a trainer, instead I stream Pvolve workouts which I have been doing for 5 years now but only in the last year I got into progressive overload weight training. About a year ago the program was endorsed by Jennifer Aniston. I also liked your goals and noticed several are my goals too, like not drinking during the workweek, eating berries (my husband makes fruit bowls for the family every morning with berries and kiwi), not snacking (or very little), walking and prioritizing protein. Fiber is a goal too but harder for me. I follow Dr. Mary Claire Haver who is an expert on menopause and she has some good supplements which I use daily, like protein powder and creatine. Good luck with your journey and I think it’s great that you decided to do something. That takes courage!
It will take a bit for the HRT to show results, and they often need to tweak it a few times to get your levels where they want them. I definitely noticed mine helping with hot flashes and feeling ragey. 🙂
Wowza! You have shared so much great information today! Thank you for sharing your journey with us. This season of life is hard and as women we tend to not discuss it or be honest with ourselves. You’ve shared so many great tips, ideas and the things that are working for you!! Thank you, thank you!! You are one of my most favorite bloggers!! Your style is impeccable, your encouragement is contagious and your honesty is refreshing!!! 😍
Your blog is so relatable as this is exactly how I have been feeling and also making changes due to post menopause. I’m 2 weeks into it and you have inspired me now knowing that I’m not the only 1 going through what I have been seeing in myself and how I’ve been feeling. Thank you as I needed this.
Thank you for sharing this! I too had to make changes at 52 years old. I think we tend to hold ourselves to so many unrealistic ideals, but once you accept that things are different with peri/menopause, it helps. I had to realize that I could still workout, it just looked different than what I was doing in my 30s and 40s. And walking has so many benefits (also great if you have a dog who won’t let you forget;) HRT has helped me immensely as well! It’s a new chapter for so many women, but not one that has to be dreaded. Your honesty is appreciated! You look great, but I think it has to do with the genuine confidence you show in that last picture:)
Well Done!
I agree with everything you learned and did. However I have been reading your blog for quite sometime and was amazed at how many trips/vacations you took in succession. In addition to menopause, being away from home and away from your daily routine of exercise can wreak havoc on your body not to mention playing in your head.
Not sure if you have read Atomic Habits by James Clear … a great read
Yeah, funny thing. I don’t gain on trips. I think because I’m not snacking, and we walk so much. But I always seem to gain when we get home. I don’t know what it is with that, but I need to figure it out because I want to keep traveling, haha!
I think the biggest problem is that women reach menopause and just accept the body changes. You have to fight back. It can be done, as you have just shown us!! Don’t give up. Make the changes and be honest with yourself. You are so right with mentioning how those little snacks add up… and they really didn’t satisfy anything. I would look back and think ” that was a waste of calories” We owe it to ourselves, and our families to take care of ourselves. I want to still be here when my grandchildren get married…. and if I don’t take care of ME , well I won’t be here at all.
It does feel like a fight, doesn’t it?
Happy Birthday, Jo-Lynne!
I always remember that we share a birthday.
So happy for you that you’ve made these great changes and made the choice to do something about it instead of staying stuck. Our health is a gift and growing old is a gift that not everyone gets.
Enjoy your special day!
“Our health is a gift and growing old is a gift that not everyone gets.” Amen to that. Happy birthday to you too!
Good for you! I’m going through the same struggle and adding many of the same habits that you are. However, I’m not writing everything down and maybe that’s the missing piece for me. I’d love to know more about what you eat in a day. Thank you for sharing your journey.
Thank you for this post. It’s very encouraging and I plan to make some of the swaps that you mentioned. Thanks again!
Wow, losing 10 pounds is a lot! What a great accomplishment. I’m happy for you and most importantly YOU look happier in your photos and sound more confident in your posts. As you know, it’s been a struggle for me as I get ready to turn 60 in a few months….a lot of body and skin changes. Thank you for sharing your positive experience from your own journey. My friends and I are all having this same discussion lately and it’s good to hear what others are doing to challenge the aging process.
Happy mutual birthday! I’m with you on the menopausal weight gain. I found myself up 7 lbs. I retweaked my diet and am down a pound so far. Progress!
Happy birthday to you too!
Happy Birthday Jo-Lynne! This was the perfect post for your birthday! I echo all the great comments from your many readers. My biggest takeaway is food is usually the issue and I have tried to NOT buy the food that I shouldn’t eat (Don’t go to the grocery store when you’re hungry!). I rarely buy ice cream or other desserts now, and don’t miss them at all. (my husband grumbles, but is healthier now as well and is eating better). And I eat less. I bake one potato that my hubby and I share and cook smaller amounts. I love leftovers so I stop eating when I stop being hungry and get creative about the leftovers for tomorrow. I still do IF, it’s been 6 years so far. I giggled at the “make my bed” comment. I am usually the first one up, so my husband makes the bed every morning, bless him!! 🙂 And the prayer/quiet time in the morning, starts off the day in the best way.
“food is usually the issue and I have tried to NOT buy the food that I shouldn’t eat” – yes, this. and again, those are such small decisions made in a millisecond that can change the entire trajectory of your day (or week). Getting in the habit of walking by those foods you don’t need, not even giving it a second thought, really helps so much. Like when I go to Starbucks, there is no internal debate. I get an Americano, no additions. Done. The only question is hot or iced. There are so many decisions in a day that we can simplify by using that strategy.
Happy Birthday! Thank you for sharing. I’m struggling with the 50 lbs I’ve put on due to COVID, menopause & thinking/wanting to be 30 again! 🤣 My Dr and some friends are encouraging me to use GLP-1. Besides the fact my insurance doesn’t cover the cost, I’m concerned about having to be on it forever. I did Weight Watchers years ago and had success so I’m considering that again. I’d love to know the podcasts you listened too. Thanks again for sharing.
They’re right here: https://jolynneshane.substack.com/i/198103048/currently-listening
What an encouraging post Jo-Lynne! I have noticed while going through menopause myself (now Post) that all women experience it differently and no two seem to be alike. I think we have become so focused on quick fixes that we often just don`t make the changes that are real and attainable. It`s lifestyle changes that’s for sure. I once heard someone say“ put in the time now or pay the price later“.
I am so happy that you have found what works for you and you are feeling more like yourself again.
Happy Birthday!
Beautiful, wonderful, vulnerable, and fantastic post. Love you!
Thank you for sharing. This is super-encouraging! Consistency and small changes seem to pay off!
This was really generous of you to share. Thank you. And you are absolutely right… you are not alone!
Thank you so much for sharing your health and wellness journey. I gained 20 pounds after menopause. This was a gradual gain but overall, made me feel powerless. Each summer after school is out (I’m a middle school teacher), I commit to keeping a food diary and exercising more. Then school starts up again and everything I’ve started is put on the back burner as a lower priority. I’m hoping some of your tips will help me be more consistent overall, such as describing myself as the person I want to be. “I am the type of person who prays in the morning upon waking up, and in the evening before going to sleep.”
Thank you again for sharing.
As you see from these comments you have helped so many over the years, so your blog and what you do is making a difference. Woman coming together to share and enjoy some fun with fashion is good. We all know its not about outward appearance over inward, but as woman we feel better about ourselves and are better for the ones around us, if we feel good in our bodies. Yes…..menopause can be the death of us, but knowing we all go through it and do survive it……. I hope we survive it, helps us get through it together. lol I’m almost 65 and right in the middle of menopause….late, as I’ve been on HRT since I was 39 and had to have a FULL hysterectomy. I’ve struggled with chronic migraines since I was 25 yrs. old making it hard to get my hormones adjusted all these years and finally in 2017, I found a Naturopath who helped me balance out my hormones first, get me off all the foods I was allergic too and slowly then since 2018 I’ve been weaning off HRT. I struggle with consistent exercise due to Chronic migraines…I have them daily now, but with the new migraine monthly shot I started 3 months ago, I’ve seen improvement on the length and severity of them. I struggle with fatigue also and foggy brain, so hard to motivate to workout, but I do try to walk as consistantly as I can. I find for me it is a mind set. I have to stay positive and not try to do what everyone else is doing or can do, and being on social media following blogs can sometimes work against this for me. It isn’t about the scale number….I don’t need to loose weight, I just need to tone what I have. I’m hopeful I can move more with migraine improvement. So all this to say I think I’d only add 2 things to your list. Gratefulness and time in God’s Word. I couldn’t have done any of this without the Lord right by my side and be grateful. There is always someone worse off than me. I know you do bible study, so you are probably good on that and I know in the motel room on your vacation you talked gratitude. Be thankful you can work out when you want, eat what you want….no food allergies etc. I’m happy you found your focus and are feeling the weight you want to be. I think you’ve always looked good each day on the blog as you’ve gone thru menopause, but I know how it is. We all feel good at a certain weight or body structure and we don’t even need a scale to tell us that. I never weigh myself. I quit in college and never looked back. I can tell how my clothes feel. The only time I know my weight is when I go to the doctor and that isn’t really accurate with my boots/shoes on . LOL So I take it and remove a couple pounds. LOL Thank you Jo-Lynne for sharing this and I’ll be praying for your journey and that you will continue to have a peace and know you are doing so much for woman on the platform. You should check out eatingbirdfood.com I love to follow her. She’s a very sweet, young gal(premenopause lol) and into nutrition and fitness. She is a coach for intermittent fasting etc. She has LOTS of high protein recipes you might like, but I will say maybe not always calorie conscious. She shows pictures of her before and after body before she got serious with her routine. She’s very fit now, post two young kids. Although she is young, she has a lot of knowledge. She also does many gluten and dairy free recipes or they can be adjusted. Her site is so well organized, and its easy to follow. She is good about answering any questions too. Have a good b’day…..is today your b’day? Blessings to you.
Thanks, Kathy. Yes, it is!
Great info and ideas! Could you also share a couple of good go-to meals you make in the evening that provide protein and fiber? Did your dietician provide meal ideas or did you just use ones you like from your own sources? Thanks.
She did give me some basic meal ideas. She also recommended Skinnytaste – a food blog. I actually know Gina, and she’s great. Her recipes are good. I don’t use low fat dairy and things, but I still like how they use real food ingredients that are easy to find.
I usually either google for low calorie, high protein meals using whatever meat I have in the house, or we keep it simple and grill chicken, Pork, steak, burgers, or fish. Paul has some dry rubs he uses. Then rice or baked potato (I eat very little rice, but I do love a baked potato, and the skin has good fiber) and a sauteed or roasted veggie. I have a lot of old recipes on my site, too. https://jolynneshane.com/category/home/food
Thank you for sharing your struggles, ones that most of us share. Good for you! Losing 20# is Huge!
I’m very petite and was carrying an extra 25#. I tried everything: keto, IF, low(er) carb, WW, etc. I walk and lift weights consistently.
My PCP recommended a GLP. I’m a nurse married to a physician. After researching it thoroughly I decided to try it. It’s literally been a miracle! I pay out of pocket but the savings in food, alcohol, and eating out makes up for it.
I lost the weight without white-knuckling it. My cravings disappeared. I still prioritize protein and keep up with my workouts.
I figure being on a small maintenance dose is no different than needing medicine for other medical conditions, and unexpected weight gain post menopause is a metabolic issue.
I could go on and on, but I encourage anyone considering it to do your research and follow the advice of your physician. Hollywood has given the drug a bad rap when so many celebrities get skeletal but that is not most patients experience
Oops…I meant congrats on losing 10#
🤦🏻♀️
I can relate! I thought I knew how to eat well too – I’d been reading all the books, listening to the podcasts, and following the wellness influencers for decades – but I still gained a bunch of weight in my late 40s. I also worked with a nutritionist to figure out what information to use (coffee after breakfast) and which to skip (sadly, my body doesn’t like Greek yogurt). You look fabulous, Jo-Lynne, and I’m glad you’re feeling better! xo Nipa
Great content! Thank you for sharing your story!
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE THIS POST!!!!
Thank you for your honest sharing of your journey through the struggles and now seeing results. I never thought you looked anything other than beautiful throughout this journey but now your inner beauty has certainly shined! As someone who has struggled with weight gain over the past few years, I’m now, more than ever, motivated again. I especially like the idea of writing down EVERYTHING I eat. As you noted, the little bites here and there truly add up!
Also, wishing you a very blessed and Happy Birthday! Enjoy your special day!
Thanks, Helen!
Jo-Lynne, Thank you for opening up and sharing with us. I am very unhappy with what I see in the mirror and know that I need to make changes. Snacking on potato chips has become a daily habit because I crave salt, but it is the first thing I need to stop. Writing down everything that goes in your mouth reminds me of Weight Watchers, but it does help. Congratulations on the weight loss and the changes you’ve made!
Happy birthday! Thank you for such a vulnerable, thoughtful post. Your honesty is so helpful. Thank you again for putting yourself out there.
Thank you Jolynne for sharing your journey. I had have struggled for years and do fine for awhile then have to buckle down and get back on what really matters and that is our health. Glad you are feeling and doing better . You have inspired me to look at my own workout and eating. I have IBS and lactose intolerant. Worked with a Nutritionist and she did help me so much. Need to revisit our notes and get back on track. I am on HRT and it has changed me back to my old self. Thank you! 😊
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us. It’s very encouraging!
Thank you for your honesty is describing your troubles and journey. I, too, have struggled of late with being more consistent and deliberate with eating “properly”. I had successfully (and pretty effortlessly) dropped almost 30 pounds a couple of years ago through a combination of IF and just plain staying active (3 hours of pickleball and a 3 mile walk every day). I thought I had the weight management licked and if I could just stay the course, would never have to worry about that weight coming back. Fast forward two years and I’ve put back 20+ of those pounds. I’m convinced it’s all due to mindless eating because I’m still doing IF and still as active as I was then – but no amount of exercise will outrun a poor diet. The nibbles and snacks that turn into the equivalent calories of whole meals have really caught up with me. I don’t like the way I look in the clothes that I had once LOVED. So, I started this week determined to eat more mindfully, make fruits and vegetables a priority for snacking and eat a higher amount of protein every day. I restarted walking today after having a bout of plantar fasciitis, which kept my walking sidelined for a few weeks (didn’t want to give up the pickleball, so the walking had to go LOL).
Happy birthday💕
Talk about perfect timing. I’m at the doctor’s office waiting to have my 6 week check up after a hysterectomy. I’m 66. I also have gained 10 pounds because I haven’t been able to exercise, first because of back issues, then we added surgery. I’m thankful for this post! We have a cruise and some time in Barcelona in October, our 45th anniversary. So I’m looking forward to getting back in the gym with my trainer, yoga and cardio! So I will be strong and healthy! One of my favorite sayings is, I will not always be motivated therefore, I have to be self disciplined. I love to exercise, so that’s not typically the issue. I love my Chardonnay and good food that’s where I have to be self disciplined.
I’m proud of you for making these changes to feel better and be healthy. I have no doubt, God will honor that♥️
I love this. I’ve been stuck in a similar rut and can relate to this on a real level.
Ahh I hit post too soon! Happy Birthday!!! 🩷
Thank you!
Thank you for sharing! Your post made my day! I’d love to hear more on what you are eating .
Jolynn, congratulations on making the changes in your life! I know you feel so much better and you look fantastic! I really needed to read this today because I have gained a lot of weight since Christmas and I feel so overweight looking in all my clothes, or at least the ones I can still get into! You have really encouraged me to look at my life and start making those changes! I do prioritize prayer and scripture reading every day and Jazzercise!🙂 Food is my problem and a husband that does not make good food choices! Thank you so much!! And I wish you well on your new journey!! Oh Happy Birthday!🎉🎉
Thanks, Paula!
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing. I’m 60 and can relate to what you are saying.
I keep marinated grilled chicken breast slices in my kitchen as a snack that I allow myself to have freely. If I’m truly hungry I will go for that, otherwise I knowing I’m snacking for some other reason. It has worked for me for years and I haven’t gotten bored of it.
Also, I drink my Spindrift from a wine glass. 🙂
All the best to you.
Yes, grilled chicken breasts are my easy lunch or snack if I am in a rush and want some protein. I eat it cold. Easy and delicious!
Hi! What do you eat for breakfast to get 30 grams of protein? Thanks! Great post
Usually 2 or 3 eggs and 3-5 oz cottage cheese. I don’t need a lot of variety, and I like to get the nutrients from eggs into my day somewhere.
Thank you!!!!! Very helpful.
This is incredibly encouraging! Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I do have menopause this year and have 10 pounds that has creeped on over the last year. It’s incredibly frustrating. I’m going to take care advice and start implementing some of those changes and pray it works!! Ha!
Good for you…….I remember reading something years ago in a magazine to the effect that “if you make your bed first thing in the morning, it will set the tone for the rest of the day”. So on the days when my husband isn’t around, I can be lazy….that phrase pops in my head and I go back and make the bed and move on to a great day.
We do absolutely no processed foods in the house……..it’s been about a year, for different reasons and feel so much better and I think less and less about sweets. Life is good.
I don’t buy them, but the kids do… having 3 adult kids living here does not help! They bring in all manner of yummy looking crap that I would never buy. LOL! But I do enjoy their company, so I have to just tell myself it’s not for me.
Happy Birthday!!
Good job on your weight loss! You’re doing all the right things to beat the menopause middle! I’m about 10 years older than you and had some of the same issues. Diet and exercise helped the most, and I did a complete lifestyle change and became a mostly plant based eater. But, I got through it, as will you, and I’m finding my 60’s to be super easy to maintain and even lose weight. Once I hit 60 it became much easier again. I did keep up the healthy habits, but weight gain is no longer happening like it did in my. 50’s.
Good luck on your continued progress!
Do you have any healthy recipes you could share?
I have a bunch here: https://jolynneshane.com/category/home/food
Hi Jo-Lynne – Wow, thank you for this post — I appreciate so much your openness in sharing your health journey! It is so inspirational to read about your goals and the progress you are making towards achieving them. The take-away from reading this, for me, is that you value yourself so much that you are sticking to goals and promises — when (I am sure) at times it might be easy to slip a bit.
As I get older it is easy to assume that looking my best doesn’t matter anymore. But what does matter is feeling good about myself and keeping promises I’ve made to myself. Because I’m worth it.
At almost 65 (in July!) my struggle is working out for fitness, bone density and keeping my weight stable — I work out every day and lift weights ~ 3x/week — but I don’t see many results. I still have saggy skin; weight gain is fast during vacation and very slow afterwards; and dexa scans haven’t moved much after 3 years of concentrated work. Your commitment and accomplishments help — thank you for sharing. I appreciate all your suggestions for fitness as we grow older.
Happy Birthday! – Julie
Happy Birthday – birthday twin!! Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I cannot imagine having try on clothes and take pictures through the whole process. So many of us share in your frustrations in dealing with menopause and all the changes and realizing what worked for us previously no longer does. It takes a lot of time and research to find what works for each individual. Thank goodness for all the podcasts on this subject to help us navigate. I have learned so much and finally moved the needle by listening to Redefining Strength and Vitality OET. So grateful for your honesty and sharing it with us all. Congratulations on your success!!
Yeah for you!!! Seriously this is awesome. Im gonna run with some of this. I’ve been basically the same weight my adult life, def the last 20 years of marriage BUT same weight different body structure. So can still wear basically same sizes some things just fit differently. My biggest issue is although I’m highly active I don’t specifically do strength training AND I’m a horrible sweet eater and the fruit I prefer aren’t the best (pineapple, banana, cantaloupe and watermelon). I’m looking to eat better and add specific strength training.
Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for this fantastic post and your honesty. Are you willing to share the podcasts? I’d love to listen. Also, how did you find your nutritionists and are you willing to share the name and contact information. We are smart women but a little help never hurts. I did not see in your post you went on HRT. I missed that.
Sure! I linked them here: https://jolynneshane.substack.com/i/198103048/currently-listening
Thanks for sharing your lifestyle changes. It’s so good to know that we menopausal ladies aren’t alone.
Your post has inspired me to be more mindful. I found you with a random Pinterest search years ago and I’m hooked! Love your content and it’s so helpful! Thank you for what you do. It’s so appreciated!
That is so nice to hear, thank you!
I read something a while back that I’d never heard before (even in nursing school or all my years of clinical practice) but it made sense, and it’s been true for me. It may or may not apply to you, but I’m sharing in hopes it helps some of your readers.
If you are either a Type A personality, or if you notice your weight gain being often tied to stressful seasons of life (even good stress like a new baby or moving to a new house) – but especially if both apply, then it’s possible that your weight gain is triggered by cortisol (the stress hormone). Here’s why this matters, especially for Type A personalities. There are several things you can do that normally would be considered “right” that will actually increase cortisol production. Overzealous weight loss goals with strict objectives and deadlines. Diet plans that require tracking every calorie. Guilt tripping yourself when you slip up. And most notably high intensity cardio! I was shocked when I read this, as every single one of these methods describes my typical weight loss plan to a T! And probably also explains why I struggle so hard to lose weight! If the same is true for you, or any readers, here’s the simple shifts that fix it.
First and foremost, have a less aggressive strategy. Less restrictive dieting with occasional splurges to avoid having slip ups that you’ll view as failure. More relaxing cardio like walking, combined with relaxing strength training like Pilates versus running and high intensity training. Even something as simple as lifting weights at home but with soothing music in the background instead of fast paced music. And prioritizing sleep! Lack of sleep is one of the biggest causes of high cortisol, and hard to overcome even if you’re doing everything else right. And finally, time to enjoy winding down (alone if you’re also an introvert). Even 30 minutes of complete quiet once a week is truly a game changer!
Again, this may not work for everybody. Nor is it intended too, as there are many other medical factors that cause weight gain. To say nothing of the emotional ones! But I hope this is helpful to anyone it may apply to!
Yes, that all makes sense. At our age, no matter what our personality, intense cardio is actually not good. Strength training is the most important thing. And sleep is crucial, yes, all of that is so true. And strict dieting and depravation is never sustainable. I hope I didn’t make it sound like what this is. As I said, nothing is off-limits, but for a time a lot of things are just not worth it. There are definitely exceptions from time to time – I had a piece of cake last night for my birthday!
Thank you so much for sharing ! I have been feeling exactly the same way and you have inspired me
I, like others, want to thank you for all your help–clothing/style can seem like a trivial thing to blog about–but helping women feel good about themselves by what they wear impacts many facets of their lives and goes beyond just “fashion”.
Congrats on losing 10#–thats awesome! I am older than you and have been in menopause for probably like 12 years–here are my thoughts on aging and weight gain-
1) Sometimes you’re actually thirsty– not hungry! So, drink a glass of water first and then see if you really need that snack
2) Always remember that muscle weighs more than fat!
3) Working out with a group does make you work harder, there’s also more accountability and it is inspiring to know that others also are striving for a more healthy fit life. I go to Jazzercise (our class has 20 year olds up to 75 year olds)–everything is covered in an hour–aerobics, weights and pilate type floor work.
4) Lastly, remember–as you get older–you make a choice between FACE or FANNIE! (quoted from Catherine Deneuve). It’s the thin ones that look way older then the others! heh heh
Yep, all true. My goal all along has been to feel comfortable in my clothes again, not an exact number. That is the measuring stick my nutritionist uses, as well. The sometimes you’re actually thirsty thing is so true. When I’m not hungry but I’m feeling like I want something to eat, a glass of water often quells the urge to grab a bite.
Happy Birthday Jo-Lynne and thank you for being so brave and sharing your struggles! I love the list that you made and plan to implement some of your goals. Even though I don’t struggle with weight, I do need to work on building strength, wine consumption and setting aside more time in prayer and gratitude. You have helped me so much with my clothing choices and buying more quality items and less fast fashion. Have a great holiday weekend!
Thank you for sharing this. It always helps to know we’re not in this alone💕
Great work!!
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with menopause and weight gain. I am currently going through what you described before you implemented your changes. Your experience is the motivation I need to get started on a path to better health. Thank you!
That is great to hear!
Happy birthday!
Thank you!
Thanks for sharing!
Happy birthday! Just wanted to say thank you for your posts and all the work you do, it has been incredibly helpful to me. I’ve learnt so much about styling my body from you. Please don’t stop, we need you!!!!! Congratulations on achieving your goals it’s certainly not easy during menopause but you’ve tackled it in a methodical way and it’s worked so well. Good job you🤗
A couple of tricks that I do is I have a set of weights (and a TRX) in my bathroom and just pick up either one any day I’m not at the gym. It helps with the crepey arm skin, that began when I turned 60 ughhh.
When I eat out I always choose fish, I don’t even look at anything else on the menu just go straight to the seafood selection. If I’m hungry between meals I have a piece of fruit or vegetables. It’s helped with my weight. Good luck to all us women going through the same thing 🥰
Love that! Taking some of the decisions out of the equation really is helpful.
This is so great! Congratulations! Smart approach and doable for those who struggle with making unrealistic goals! Keep it up!❤️👏
Oh! Happy Birthday!🥳 Enjoy!
Thank you!
Oh my gosh! I think a lot of us know exactly what you’re going through. It can be so depressing and confusing. Congrats on taking charge! You look beautiful!
thanks, Debbie!
Good for you! I’m in my early 70’s and I started snacking and having wine every night. Before I knew it I couldn’t fit into my clothes. After having a little conversation with myself, I too have lost those extra pounds! It does feel good!
having a little conversation with myself… lol!! sometimes we need to do that, don’t we?
Thank you so much for this post! It really helps to know that we are not alone in this post menopausal journey. Your post could easily have been my post. And yes, I know all the right things to do to improve diet, exercise, and lift weights. But somehow, we just don’t follow what we know do we? I plan to adopt some of your methods in hopes that, I too, can regain my health and vitality. Could you share the podcasts that motivated you?
Thank you for all you do!
Sure, I linked them here: https://jolynneshane.substack.com/i/198103048/currently-listening
Congrats on your weight loss and happy birthday! I actually noticed a difference in your last couple posts. Another app to try for tracking food is Eato. It has a great AI based meal scanning tool that appears to really be accurate. My type 1 diabetic daughter has been using it to measure carbs and is very pleased with it.
The struggle is real for so many women.
I started menopause at age 34 and in it for 12 years. It was long and like a roller coaster. I have been jealous of my friends who started at a typical age of 50+. It was much quicker for them.
So many SM influencers are making women’s health more noticeable these days. I wish I had that. Doctors did not make it easy for me.
I really appreciate your honesty with this post. It’s not easy to share these kinds of struggles. Would you share the podcast(s) that inspired you to embark on this? Forgive me if you already shared it!