April 27, 2010

Raising Responsible Kids: Allowances

We’ve been giving the bigger kids small allowances for a few years without much of a strategy.  We would often forget and have to catch up after several weeks, and while the intent was for the kids to give to the church out of their allowances, I admit that we usually dug around in our...
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April 19, 2010

Raising Responsible Kids: The Checklist

So far in this series, we have discussed the importance of: having a plan allowing our kids to experience consequences for their actions and choices good communication taking action sooner rather than later Now I’m going to share with you one of the practical things I’ve done that has REALLY helped the tone in our...
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April 12, 2010

Raising Responsible Kids: Actions Speak Louder Than Words

We’ve all heard the mother in the grocery store yelling at Tommy to get back here.  And to GET BACK HERE NOW OR YOU’RE GONNA BE IN BIG TROUBLE WHEN WE GET HOME!  While Tommy laughs and runs further into the racks of clothing.  Heck, we’ve all probably BEEN that mother at one time or...
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April 6, 2010

Raising Responsible Kids: Communication

The way we speak to our kids and the way we present our expectations is key to eliminating the whining (them), nagging (us) and the general frustration with parenting.  In New Parent Power, John Rosemond says, “When giving instructions to children, parents should be commanding, concise, and concrete.” He calls these the three Cs of...
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March 31, 2010

Raising Responsible Kids: Take Off the Bumpers

You know how when you take kids bowling, they have those bumpers on the sides of the lane that prevent the bowling balls from going into the gutter?  Have you ever noticed that it’s HARDER to bowl with the bumpers?  Anyone who actually knows how to bowl knows that the bumper actually interferes with the...
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March 29, 2010

Raising Responsible Kids: Have A Plan

I was going to make the next post in this series about our checklists, because that is the first thing we did right off the bat to change how things run in our home.  But I think I’m jumping ahead of myself.  I think it’s better off to set the ground work before I get...
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March 24, 2010

Raising Responsible Kids: A Series

Homework battles, bedtime battles, morning battles, sibling arguing…  It seems like there’s no end to the battles the average family faces, and ours is no exception.  Mornings are always stressful with trying to get the kids out the door to the bus without losing my marbles, and lately homework has become a serious issue.  In...
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