Coffee Talk 11.15.20

Well, we’re halfway through November, and less than two weeks away from Thanksgiving! 2020 continues to throw us curveballs, but I guess all we can do is keep on keeping on.

This weekend, my son’s 21st birthday came and went with little fanfare. We had a cake for him last weekend when my parents were in town, and he has a big gift coming, but he wouldn’t let me do anything else. Not that we could have a big shebang with Covid, anyway…

So yesterday Becca came downstairs and suggested we get a basket and fill it with a bunch of his favorite things. I had already been planning to go out and get some balloons, so we put it all together, and I think it turned out really cute.

We presented it to him when he came downstairs for lunch, and he seemed to enjoy it. So now I officially have a child who is an adult.

Or was that 18? I don’t feel like 18 really counts as an adult these days.

In other milestone parenting news, I took my middle child up to the Boston area this week for a college visit at my alma mater.

I was nervous about traveling during a pandemic and using rest stops and staying in a hotel, but it all went fine. Everywhere we went, they were clearly taking all possible precautions, and for the most part the people around us were being compliant with masks and distancing.

I was also nervous about making the drive by myself — it’s 6 hours and right through New York City. We’ve done it plenty of times as a family over the years when we go to Maine, but Paul usually does the bulk of the driving. I tend to fall asleep about 2 hours into any road trip, but for whatever reason, I didn’t have any trouble this time.

Caroline drove for about an hour and got some practice on the Merritt Parkway, but I did the rest. It’s such a harrowing drive, you don’t really have time to get bored and sleepy.

We had beautiful weather for the trip — well, until it was time to leave; it rained for most of our drive home. But we had a really nice time together, and I thought the college did a great job with their programming.

She seems to still be processing the experience, and I haven’t been able to really gauge how she feels about going to college there, but she talks like it’s her plan.

If you’re like, Wait, what!?! I thought Caroline didn’t want to go to college… You would be right.

Until just a few months ago, she didn’t want to go to college at all, but she’s been saying for years that she wants to get out of Pennsylvania. We’ve encouraged her that college is the easiest way to do that, albeit not the cheapest, but it will give her the chance to experience another part of the country and maybe even opportunities to study abroad.

I guess she finally saw the light because she recently started talking like she would go, and she applied right away when she found out the essay requirement was waived for early decision applications.

That’s why we decided we needed to get her up there this fall and make sure it’s what she really wants to do. She had only seen the campus one time before this, and it was during the summer so not a great time to judge a college.

She was also able to get her interview taken care of on this trip, so that completes her application. And now we wait!

Now that this college trip is behind me, I feel like the countdown to Thanksgiving is on. I was hoping to get all of my Christmas shopping done by then, but I have barely started, so that’s a tall order. You’d think with all the gift guides I put together, I’d be way ahead of the game, but nope! It doesn’t work that way.

You know how the saying goes. The cobbler’s kids never have shoes… Or something like that.

Well, I better hop off here and get ready for my day. Maybe I can get to some of that Christmas shopping this afternoon…

I hope you and yours are staying safe and well. Have a restful and very blessed Sunday!