Coffee Talk 10.16.16

Good morning, friends! I hope everyone’s enjoying the weekend. We finally got to the pumpkin patch late yesterday afternoon. My daughter picked this little tiny pumpkin and asked me to take this picture. I think she’s an artist at heart.


She wanted to also do the corn maze, but the hayride we went on to the pumpkin patch ended up winding us all around the farm, through the woods, across the fields, and by the time we got back, it was too late to do the corn maze. I promised her we’d go back and do it another day. Now I have to stay true to my word… yikes!

It was a perfect day for being outside. I mean, just look at that sky. The temperature was perfect too. It was cool enough for sweaters and boots but warm enough that we didn’t need coats.


Afterwards, we came home and ordered pizza for dinner, and then we went back out to see my son’s high school band perform in a cavalcade. He has 5 or 6 of these during the band season, and they pretty much monopolize his Saturdays. They practice in the morning, have a catered lunch/dinner in mid-afternoon, then load the busses and drive to the school hosting the event — it can be as much as an hour away, and it usually is. Last night we drove 50 minutes to get there, and it’s the closest one of the ones he has left. The kids don’t get back to our high school till close to midnight. It’s a lot, but it keeps them busy and supervised so I’m all for it.

We don’t go to every cavalcade, but we do like to go to a couple of them. It’s fun. Our band is always adding new elements to to their routine so every one is a little different, even though it’s basically the same program every time.


The nice part is, people come and go throughout the event, so we usually arrive about 30 minutes before their scheduled performance time and leave when they’re done. We catch 3 or 4 of the bands, and that’s enough for us! It sure beats sitting through entire baseball games, which I’ve done more times than I can count. (He no longer plays.)

So today we have our usual church activities, and this afternoon my son is going to practice driving for his test this week. They’re allowed to go down to the testing center and practice on the course. If all goes well, we’ll have a 3rd licensed driver in our house on Wednesday!!! It is really hard to believe, and I’m not quite sure how I feel about it. I’m not eager for him to drive, but I have to say, it will be nice not to be schlepping him everywhere… as long as he stays alive and doesn’t hurt anyone!

Moms of teens, HOW do you do it? How do you let them go?

I know I have to loosen the apron strings at some point, and really, as neurotic is I probably sound, I think I’m a fairly laid-back mom. I’ve had friends criticize me over the years for being too lax about things, but I do have an active imagination, and my mind goes to all sorts of dark places when I think of setting my kids off on their own. Maybe I’m more of a control freak than I realized. Is that possible? Ha! Don’t answer that.

So yeah, that’s where I am at the moment.

In other parenting news, I’ve had some ask about my daughter’s cyber schooling. Y’all, it is going so well! I don’t want to jinx it, but so far, so good! The lack of drama in our house since we started this is unbelievable to me.

It’s a fairly rigorous program, at least they claim it to be, and I have to say, she does work a lot of hours — more than I expected when we signed on. But part of the reason we’re doing this is that she would get frustrated in school when she didn’t have time to finish her work, and they would give her extra time, but it was embarrassing and would keep her from other activities. This way, she can work at her own pace, she isn’t distracted by the shenanigans going on around her (which always stressed her out in the classroom) and she can also work when she is at her best. She sleeps till at least 8am and gets up and to the computer by 9am. That’s the goal, anyway. I do have to nudge her to get her going, but once she starts, she works diligently until almost dinnertime.

She takes an hour for lunch, and she likes to make something hot — another bonus. Her diet is SO much better. She used to buy school lunch because she hates sandwiches and other packing foods, and now she can make spaghetti or pizza or whatever we have in the house. She also takes a couple breaks to walk around the block, but only once or twice a day. For the most part, she’s working on schoolwork. I’m sure there’s a lot of time spent transitioning and getting geared up for the next task, and there’s probably some daydreaming going on, but she can see her work through to completion, and if she gets a lower grade than she likes, she will redo the assignment. (They’re allowed one retake.)

I’m really impressed with her work ethic, and I’m SO glad we gave the cyber school a try. We have no idea what we’ll do next year. We’re just taking this one year at a time, but for this 8th grade year, I think this was a really good decision.

With that, I’m off to get a run in before church. I’ve been kind of lax with running, and I want to start adding on miles. I need to get out there more often. I’m averaging about every 3rd day right now, and that’s not cutting it.

I remember this being a challenge back before I got serious about running and had a training plan. I would aim for every other day, and when you aim for every other day, you actually get out there about every 3rd day. I had someone advise me back then to aim for every day, and I’d get out there 4 or 5 times a week, which is ideal. Fun fact, you actually are less prone to injury when you’re running regularly (as long as you don’t overdo it.)

I’m frustrated that I’m so inconsistent right now, but now that it’s staying dark so late into the morning, I don’t have time to run AND get a photo shoot before my husband leaves for work. And a lot of times, the photo shoot wins out. (And let’s not mention the cold…ugh! It’s been pretty nippy out there recently, and it will only get worse.)

We’re going to try to get more done on the weekends so we can free up those weekday mornings and I can get back to a more consistent running program. I probably need to train for something. It’s hard to stay motivated when there is no goal. I’m not planning to do a half marathon (13.1 mi) ever again, but a 10K (6.2 mi) would be a nice goal. I haven’t run 6.2 miles since before all my injuries. I do have a 5K (3.1 mi) scheduled at the end of this month, and I plan to do a Turkey Trot 5K as well. It is my Thanksgiving Day tradition. 🙂 So maybe after that I’ll find a 10K to sign up for.

Okay, that’s enough rambling about me. What are you up to today??? I hope it’s something fun, and that you’re enjoying lovely weather wherever you are!