Coffee Talk

Good morning, friends! (I had to check my calendar to verify what day it is… haha!)

I’m really dragging this morning. Yesterday we hosted Paul’s family for Christmas, and all but one of the 24 of us was able to be here. It was a lot of fun, and everyone brought food so I didn’t have to do a lot, but for some reason I was pooped by about 8:30 last night. I went upstairs and went to bed and slept till 7AM.

I never sleep till 7AM unless I’m out till midnight the night before. I started out my day yesterday with a 3 mile run, which felt great, and then after that, I was on my feet all day, and I guess I’m just not used to that. It’s funny how a change in routine can really take it out of you.

Today should be much more relaxing. I’m going to forego my run this morning, and we have church, and then we’ll just be hanging out here at home all afternoon and evening. I was on nursery duty during last week’s church service, so I’m looking forward to worship this morning.

I just want to tell you all how much I appreciate your comments on my Year In Review post. I was planning to go back and reply to them all, but that will be very redundant with all of the thank you’s I owe you all, so I’ll just say it here.

Wouldn’t it be cool if blog comments had “like” buttons, like Facebook and Instagram? Sometimes I just want to say “thank you” but I hate to clutter your inbox with an email as basic as that, and I just wish there was a way to hit a like button so you know I appreciate your comment.

I love the feedback you gave in the comments, and I read through each one. I do think I will try to add some more health and fitness content in 2019, and maybe a recipe here and there — especially during those months at the end of a season when I’m getting tired of posting outfits.

The input about people moving away from Facebook is also interesting. Personally, I don’t use my personal FB account very much — for most of those reasons. I prefer Instagram, myself, so I post most of my personal stuff on my personal account or on Insta Stories.

I would love to do more with Stories, but most days there really isn’t a whole lot to share, as I sit here pecking away at my computer keyboard most of the day. When I am doing things that are more interesting, I’m not thinking about sharing them on Insta Stories. I’m just living. But I love watching other people on Stories, so I’d like to use mine more, plus I know it supposedly helps my posts get seen more. #stupidalgorithm

I also have an issue with my kids — they don’t like to be featured on my social media. Even though I look around and see my friends sharing their teenage kids, my kids feel weird about it because I have so many followers who are strangers to them. So I’m always caught between wanting to share and wanting to respect their privacy. All that to say, I don’t use Stories as much as I’d like, but I’ll keep trying to be more active with it as I can.

I don’t do New Year’s Resolutions, but I have made a few promises to myself as I read through my Year In Review and think about the year ahead.

#1. Take More Pictures. Now, that probably sounds hilarious, as taking pictures of myself is my full-time job, but we got to the end of this year and realized we don’t have many of the kids and family. When I went to put together a family photo album for my in-laws (my annual Christmas gift to them) I realized that we hadn’t taken many pictures of our family this year. Both Paul and I committed ourselves right then and there to start taking more pictures, even if it annoys the kids. I will just make sure they know it is for our family, not for my social media.

#2. Read More. I say this every year, but I’ve allowed reading get put on the back burner, and I am once again committing to read more books this year. I read The Great Alone in about 3 days over Christmas break, and it was so nice to read again! I bought the paperback, rather than downloading to my iPad, and I found it much easier to focus without getting distracted by social media and emails. I think paper books are the way to go for me, and then I can pass them along to someone who likes to read so they don’t clutter my house.

If you have any book recommendations for me, I’d love to hear them! I like historical fiction and chick lit, but I prefer to keep it clean.

#3. Eat Intuitively. I tried doing Whole30 and Faster Way To Fat Loss this year, and neither quite worked for me. Then I got really busy after Thanksgiving and lost a few pounds just by only eating when I was hungry and cutting snacks. It wasn’t intentional, exactly, because I was too busy to eat half the time, but it made me realize how often I eat just because the food looks good or is tied to a social occasion. I also noticed how good I felt when I was listening to my body and eating for fuel and not for fun.

This is easier said than done because my busy season is over, and the next few months are cold and depressing. It’s easy to look to food for comfort and enjoyment, but I’m really going to try to focus on how I feel and try not to eat things that I know will make me feel crappy. I managed to break my soda habit thinking that way, and that was over five years ago. I know I can break other bad habits if I’m intentional about it. I already eat WAY less sugar and carbs than I used to, just because I know it will make me feel bad if I overdo it, but I’d like to get even more consistent with that.

I could go on, but I’ll stop at 3. Sure, I want to exercise more consistently, do my devotions more consistently, be more present for my kids, lose 5 pounds, gossip less, send more cards, travel the world, the list goes on… but there’s only so much self-improvement one can expect in a year. Plus our efforts are always going to wax and wane with the busyness of life. It’s good to set goals and think about ways we can improve, but at the end of the day, I think we all probably need to give ourselves a little more grace.

Speaking of which, I’ve decided that I’m happy with where things stand with the blog and social media. I know I expressed some frustration and weariness with the numbers game and the pace of the job in general, but I’m at a good place. While it’s important to keep tabs on the industry and best practices and be aware of how the space is changing, I also have to remember to take it all with a grain of salt and weigh all the advice with what I know to be true for myself and my audience. I may not have the biggest followings, but I have great engagement here on the blog and on my social media channels, and I will take that over big numbers any day.

Well, I better wrap this up! I actually started this post this morning, and I’m just getting around to finishing it at almost 3PM. I took a break for church and went to lunch with friends, and now I’m ready for a nap.

I hope you enjoy what’s left of the weekend!