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And just like that, it’s fall. #CoffeeTalk

I took this photo yesterday. They’ve already started cutting down the corn — a sure sign the end of summer is here and fall is on its way. Soon that field will be bare.

late summer cornfield

I can’t believe how the weather has changed in the past 24 hours. I woke up this morning and had to put a sweatshirt on. Then when I opened the door to let the dog out, it was downright chilly.

I’m not usually one to welcome cold weather, but for some reason, I’m ready for it this year. Although I DO wish it had waited one or two more days because tonight we have pricey tickets to see Longwood Gardens‘ last fireworks show of the season — and also reservations for dinner at their swanky 1906 restaurant. BUT our seats are on the porch. And it’s supposed to rain . . . so I’m not sure how that is all going to play out. We can’t attend on their rain date so I may be out a chunk of change. I’m still holding out hope that it will work out. The weather is a fickle woman, as we all know so I’m not writing it off as a loss just yet.

Good news, I slept till 5:30 this morning. Yes, that is sleeping in for me! At least, compared to the way I’ve been sleeping the past month. I did crash yesterday afternoon and take a long nap, and then I was out until almost 10PM watching the Moms Night Out movie so I think that worked to reset my body clock. Hopefully I won’t have anymore 4AM mornings for a while, although, I have to say, I get SOOOO much accomplished when I get up that early.

As far as getting my bloodwork goes, I’m 0 for 2. I went back to the diagnostics lab get my bloodwork done yesterday and walked in to find a waiting room full of people. Naturally, the day that I went in withOUT my insurance card, there wasn’t a soul in the waiting room and they took me back immediately.

I sat there for almost 30 minutes, while people walked in who evidently had made appointments (I could have sworn you can’t make appointments there!!) and I could tell I was getting nowhere fast. Plus I had my daughter with me who was still feeling under the weather, if not as sick as she was the day before. So we left.

I called my primary care doctor and made an appointment to go in on Monday and have them do the bloodwork, but the results probably won’t get to my orthopedist in time for my Wednesday appointment, and then I’m traveling for 10 of the next 12 days.

I’m at my wits end. This kind of thing takes every last shred of sanity I have in me. The time wasted . . . the frustration of not being able to get answers . . . so I can’t fix the problem . . . this is why I so often just give up on my medical problems and figure they’ll go away. Funny thing is, they often do.

So I think I’m just going to start taking my vitamin D and calcium because I know I need them anyway. And I’ll have to follow up with the doctor after Costa Rica. If I even bother at all. It’s no wonder people neglect their health. Who has time??????

My husband was not super helpful when I ranted to him yesterday. Only I have these issues, evidently.

Maybe I should have waited it out, but momma’s got things to do. 

I know, I know, people have real problems. But this sorta thing just fries my gizzard.

So yeah, I saw the Moms Night Out for the second time last night.

Moms-Night-Out-Movie-Poster

I think it was more hysterical the second time. Or maybe I was just tired. But I think it’s really well done until the end when they manage to fit in every worn cliche in the book as the husband tries to support his wife (which, I do appreciate that they don’t make the husband out to be an idiot or uncaring.) Still, the overall message is refreshing . . . that motherhood is an important job, and we are enough even with all of our faults and shortcomings.

I do feel that we women can be way too hard on ourselves. We have a way of setting up so many unrealistic expectations for ourselves that when we inevitably fail, it’s all too easy to buy into the lie that we aren’t enough, we can’t do it all (when in reality, no one does), and we aren’t worthy of the beautiful lives God has given us.

That’s a very dangerous road to walk down because once we start to feel that way and give into those feels of failure and inadequacy, we aren’t any good to anyone.

Don’t feed yourself that lie.

You are enough, and you are the perfect mom for your children — not to say you are perfect, but you are the mother God gave to your children. Take comfort in that, and when you lose your temper (oh, do I ever . . . ) or let someone down, forgive yourself and move on. Don’t dwell in the failures; dwell on the blessings. It’s so much easier said than done, I know, and some seasons of life are harder than others, but for the most part, we have a lot more control over our feelings than we think we do.

The one thing I kept thinking as I watched the movie and Allyson’s story played out on screen was, this girl just needs some sleep.

I seriously think we women run ourselves ragged and then we can’t figure out why we can’t do it all. Sleep is sooooo important to mental health and well being . . . to physical health too!! I truly believe if we all got 8-9 hours of sleep a night, we would be much more content with our lives. So that’s my PSA for the day. Put your sleep needs first. You’ll be a much better person for it.

We also need to learn to say no more, but that’s a topic for another post.

So . . . what are you up to on this fine Saturday??

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25 thoughts on “And just like that, it’s fall. #CoffeeTalk

  1. We are decluttering and making good homemade meals today at home. I had grand plans for tackling the yard, but we may just do a small portion each day this week. Get yourself in for that bloodwork mama! I recently lost a friend at age 38 and it has given our small group a health wake up call. We all scheduled our annual exams, bloodwork and whatnot and are cranking out our checkups over the next two months. And I am with you on the sleep. I have been out at 9 pm most nights this week because my body was screaming for it.

  2. Soccer-2 kids have games and painting Isaac’s bedroom… And it’s hot here, 90 degrees. Enjoy fall weather, I’m jealous.

  3. My daughter is cheering at a football game this afternoon. I am enjoying the quiet of the house and just brewed myself some coffee. Have to catch up on the laundry today and do the grocery shopping! Time to break out the crock pot for some soup :). Yes, l agree with you that women are hard on themselves and I too feel that I have to do it all and feel frustrated when I am not able to get everything done.

    I work full time during the week so I often end up cramming errands and cleaning into the weekend instead if being able to relax and just enjoy the two days off. Glad I am able to be there for all of my kids after-school activities but wish that the house would magically become clean… It is really what I struggle with as a working mom.

    1. I bet. It would be so much harder to work out of the home, I think. I’m totally spoiled. We hired a cleaning lady when I started doing blog design and I’ve never looked back. SUCH a treat.

  4. Housecleaning and getting out the fall decorations in preparation for a foot surgery I’m having Monday a.m. Gotta get stuff done!

  5. It is definitely Fall here now too. Yesterday we all needed jackets and over night I had to make sure my son hadn’t kicked off his blankets because he has pretty bad asthma and allergy issues when the weather swings from warm to cool and back.

    I love Mom’s Night Out too. I got to attend a screening and took my bestie which was a brand new mom at the time. We were cracking up and really loved the message overall.

    Today we are headed to a restaurant where my hubby makes balloon animals for kids for a couple hours, then he’s got to work a bit and then it’s a birthday dinner.

  6. I want to see that movie! I think I’ll plan a girl’s night out soon.

    What am I doing today? Hosting a “Sweet 16 Hoedown” for my daughter! I’m thankful for this cooler weather – perfect for a backyard hoedown! Yee-Haw! 🙂

  7. Thanks for today’s blog…I needed it. Only, in reverse… “..you are the mother God gave to your children.” I read that and immediately saw it in reverse…..you are the child of the mother God chose for you. Having issues and this really spoke to me, in reverse. We never know what impact something we say or do might have had on another. Thanks.

  8. So so true. Unfortunately it took my accident and three years in a wheelchair to teach me that lesson. And I still struggle with it frequently, truth be told. We are absolutely our own worst critics.

    Nothing overly exciting here this weekend, just getting our new home set up. And I have to say, it is pretty fun, knowing we will never move again!

      1. Hmmm, not sure why I thought you knew that story! 😀 I have good days & bad days pain-wise and am constantly in & out of physical therapy, but for the most part, I walk pretty well now! I have a spinal cord stimulator that helps with the pain too. Overall, I can’t complain. 🙂

  9. Was up at 7am made coffee and went to sit on the patio ! May laugh, but it’s our first cool front here in Humble Texas. After the sweltering humidity we’ve had, a cool 69-70* with clouds, wind and sprinkles was delightful to this Texas Girl! 🙂
    Thanks for the review on “Mom’s Night Out”. Haven’t seen it. My movie buddy started back to school. But will be sure to see it soon. Enjoy your Saturday! ~~Donna~~

  10. Oh, I SO agree with you about sleep. And I truly believe that if our kids got more sleep they would do better in school. I was such a stickler about early bed times when my kids were in school, and I’ve always been a 7-8 hour a night kinda gal. I can’t function without sleep, and I don’t think many people can.

    I haven’t seen the movie yet, but I noticed it’s on demand right now, so maybe I’ll try it. I’ve heard great things about it.

    Enjoy your trip!!!

  11. Here in Wisconsin we went from 80 degrees to waking up this morning to 40 degrees,so needless to say I woke up with a ton of energy. Wasn’t able to do much we were at a memorial service for my father,no pity, it was a great relief Cancer is a nasty illness,

    Tomorrow I’m hoping it is cool, I plan on cleaning out my big chest freezer and cooking all the meat up and making up meals to freeze.

    I to put off going to the DR. and when I finally did I found out I needed a Kidney transplant.I pray there is nothing wrong with you.Best wishes.

    1. ACK! Stories like that scare me to death. How did they discover it?

      I did recently have a physical and routine bloodwork so I think I’m in okay shape… except the stress fracture! LOL

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