“Every woman has had this experience: you get to the end of the day and realize you did nothing for you. And if you go days, weeks, or even months in this cycle, you begin to feel like you have lost a bit of yourself.”
Do you know this feeling?
If so, I have the book for you.
I know that no one “does it all,” but if any woman did, it would be my friend, Jessica Turner. The amount of things that she accomplishes in any given day is truly impressive. She has a full-time job outside of the home, she runs a successful blog, and she has three young children and a doting husband. In addition to all of that, she scrapbooks regularly, she crafts, she reads, she cooks, and she does all of it with a smile that exudes pure joy.
Oh, and did I mention? She even made time to write a book about it!
Jessica’s book, The Fringe Hours: Making Time For You, was released just yesterday, and it’s now available for purchase at Amazon.com, Barnes & Noble, and other select retailers. She sent me a copy for review, and I sat down and read it in a weekend.
If you are a woman who feels that you’ve lost a bit of yourself to motherhood, I encourage you to pick up a copy of this book today.
I’ve always been one to practice self care, and I’ve always made time for hobbies and friends. It was never a surprise to my family because it’s always been that way. Of course, I don’t put my needs above everyone else’s either, but it is only fair that there is a balance.
Unfortunately I see so many women struggling to stay afloat, and it is stealing their joy.
I often say that we make time for the things that are important to us, and I believe that’s true. When people ask me how I have time to exercise or put on my makeup in the morning, I just reply flippantly that people make time for what is important to them.
But what I realized while reading Jessica’s book is that some women don’t believe they are important enough to make themselves a priority. Others say yes to everything and every one until they feel like a hamster spinning on its wheel, unsure of how to get off.
My friend, YOU are important. You are someone’s wife, mother, daughter, or friend. Your needs and desires matter. And no matter what society tries to tell us, you do NOT need to do it all.
I have known Jessica for quite a while, and one thing I’ve always admired is her ability to guard her time. My favorite line of hers that I’ve adopted is, “I don’t have margin for that right now.”
She is also very disciplined about setting aside a certain amount of time for a certain task and then moving on, whereas I can get involved in a project at 10AM, and before I know it, the kids are getting off the school bus and it’s time to prepare dinner.
With nuggets of wisdom like, “Just because something is a good thing doesn’t mean it is good for this moment in your life,” and, “Stop trying to be everything for everyone and start investing in who and what really matters,” Jessica uses her own experiences as well as those from women she interviews to share practical ways to balance our responsibilities while still taking time to invest in ourselves.
Reading her book encouraged me to be more intentional about organizing my time and prioritizing my commitments. I appreciated the encouragement to say no to certain “opportunities” that don’t fit into my current season of life.
And I love her suggestions for planning ahead and being prepared to take advantage of those fringe hours in my day to accomplish tasks that are meaningful rather than wiling away more time on Facebook while I’m waiting in line at the grocery store, for example. I’m speaking hypothetically, of course. I NEVER while away time on Facebook, ahem…
Seriously, though, The Fringe Hours is a breath of fresh air, and I think you will love it! Get one for yourself, and while you’re at it, get one for a friend.
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